I have 3 other girl siblings and dad has been such protective. He's the best father that you can ever imagine off. He seems to be controlling most of our lives but he meant good and it's the instinct that all the fathers out there will have towards their little princesses.
Friends look synical to him and some even dare to say 'Your dad is old school!' as far as I know he's being that protective because he LOVES us. That is LOVE. He's such a great teacher and guider. He taught me one valuable matter today = 'It's for the Survival'.
Now what I'm about to share here can probably caused contradict to some people but - still this is what I feel and I'm going to hold on for the rest of my life. Ladies out there - please here me out! from around the world, Southeast Asia, Middle East, Russia Caspian, Australasia, North America, Europe, Africa, South America EVERYWHERE! If you're reading this, thank you in advance and hope you'll gain something beneficial from this writing.
Before marriage, any decision you're making is about yourself always but it's different when you've already made a vow in front of your God, your family and friends when you ready to be Mr and Mrs. Marriage is about making 2 become 1. 2 families become 1, 2 hearts become 1, 2 souls become 1 and 2 decisions become 1. After marriage, it is no longer a sole one man life pronouncement but 2.
Dad always remind me that 'don't make your job as a career instead make it a survival' What does he means by that?
Ladies, tell me how can you confirm that the guy that you are marrying or about to be married is the truly soulmate and will be by yourside for the rest of your life? If anyone does, please share with the rest how to confirm that guy you're marrying will never leave you forever.
All living things will die even Michael Jackson whom wanting to live forever die sudden. When the time comes, no one could ever defies death. Thus, we will never ever going to learn when the husband is going to die or leave us and if you're marrying a wealthy man, perhaps you can fight and have half of his $$$$ if he leave you but we are the middle people, what would he leave us with? kids perhaps!
Do we want to be homeless, begging people for money on the street? No, no, no, never! We're strong, we can stand on out feet and survive. That is why ladies, never ever stop working when you are married. Make sure you have a stable income because for the muslims, you know your money is yours and his money is you + him.
My point here is that, don't rely too much on your husband's pocket and if he really wants you to stop, DON'T! Discuss properly and if necessary get counselings. At least, if he leave you nothing, you can still survive to feed you and your kids' mouths :)
Be strong to those who already been in this situations and may your life be an example to the single ladies; working wives and mothers out there. I aint talk rubbish but this is from what I've seen and heard. It feels like a MUST and a responsibility to share and warn by dearest sisters who are reading this :)
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May God bless us and He granted us with the best spouse. Good night all~ Happy Holiday and Season Greetings
